Q: My fiancé’s parents are divorced. His father’s side of the family is very large while his mother only has two brothers, neither of whom is married. He wants to have his mother’s two brothers in the wedding party but not invite his father’s brothers and sisters as we are trying to keep it to immediate family only. I do not feel that it is appropriate to include one side but not the other. I don’t want to create any difficulties in the family. Am I wrong?
A: Well done for trying to be the peacekeeper. But really, what it comes down to is your fiancé’s feelings. He might have specific reasons for his decision and while you might not agree with them, you must respect them. Sit down with your fiancé and talk about your feelings and ask him about his, then make the decision together.