Q: I’m getting married in two months to a wonderful man who is not of the same ethnic background as my family. The problem is my grandmother is notoriously prejudiced and quite vocal about it. Nobody has had the courage to tell her that my future husband is of another ethnic background. I want grandma to be at my wedding, but I don’t want her to ruin the day. How should I deal with this?
A: It’s not uncommon for some older family members to disapprove of a couple’s engagement, especially when it comes to interracial or same-sex marriages. While your grandmother might be vocal about her disapproval initially, it’s likely she will eventually put aside her opinions to witness her granddaughter’s wedding. If you’re still worried she won’t attend, try enlisting your parents’ help. Chances are they can convince your grandmother to attend the wedding, even if she doesn’t completely approve. In the end, if you’re happy, your family will be happy—even if it takes a while.