advertisment

Wedding Bells Blog

Wedding Bells Blog
Advice

advice

Advice From Other Brides On Having A Cash Bar

Alcohol can be a huge expense at a wedding and an unnecessary expense if the bride and groom do not drink themselves. Cash bars are a great, but controversial alternative for many brides and grooms. We asked our Facebook and Twitter followers their opinions on having a cash bar. Here’s what they had to say:

“Limited cash bar. Set a cap then switch to a cash bar after that limit has been met. Or have beer and wine and let folks pay for mixed drinks if they choose.”
- Derric Smith via Facebook

“The only way to go is with an open bar! It’s the polite way.”
- Carollyn Yvonne via Facebook

“No way. Another option that I did at my wedding is drink tickets plus 3 bottles of wine per table. Not everyone used their tickets so other people did and everyone had a good time.”
- Alyssa Ashley via Facebook

“We did an open bar but had the option to limit types of beer/drinks. It’s kind of a middle ground. But certainly have a cash bar if cash is limited.”
- @samobeid via Twitter

“Where I am from, you would be stupid to have an open bar. People would go and be lush and it would make a mess of your reception. I think that it really depends on where you are from and the people that you are inviting.”
- Alana Chaput via Facebook

“I think it depends on your bar. We had an open bar, but provided our own liquor. If you are at a hotel that charges you $6 a drink you may not want to pay for the open bar. Its a tough one. I’ve seen people take cash out of presentation envelopes to pay for the drinks.”
- Amanda Kueneman via Facebook

“Do it if you can’t afford to not to.”
- @andreasavdoulos via Twitter

“Just adds another price tag to the wedding. We did a cash bar and people didn’t mind at all. Everyone still enjoyed the wedding.”
- Mary Thompson via Facebook

“Heck No! Open bar all the way! It’s bad enough guests have to buy an outfit and a gift, you could at least let them have a good time and drink their faces off.”
- Melissa Martin via Facebook

“Please, please don’t!”
- @envelopments via Twitter

“Don’t. I don’t want my guests to feel that they’re going to a lounge/club/bar during the reception.”
- Natalie Therese Bisnar via Facebook

“No, it’s called BYOB [Bring your own]. It’s cheaper on the bride and groom and people can bring what they like.”
- Erin Brooke via Facebook

“Don’t. Cash bars are gross. But if you must have one please let your guests know so they can bring cash.”
- Cara Ducasse via Facebook

“Yes do do do.”
- Marie-Josee Gagnon via Facebook

“Don’t. At Punjabi weddings, it’s considered a huge don’t to have a cash bar – always open bar.”
- Naveen A. Grewal via Facebook

“Yup. My partner has been sober for over a year; There is no way we’d be paying for other people’s booze.”
- Jess Grover via Facebook

“Ew! Never!!!”
- FranZingone via Twitter

“We did a cash bar which worked well for us and our family and friends. But we did have a red and white wine at each table, and gave everyone of age a drink ticket that was personalized with a bow.”
- Jessica Bishop via Facebook

“Definite do! I’m from the Maritimes where open bars are unheard of. Thank goodness – I could never afford it. That being said I am providing wine for the tables.”
- Angela Wolf via Facebook

“As a planner I say no, very tacky.”
- Courtney B Kern via Facebook

“I think it would depend on your own family and friends. My friends drink a lot but my family doesn’t. I think the idea of three drink tickets and wine on the table is a good idea, then cash after that. But have non-boozy options too, for those who don’t drink. Or mock-tails.”
- Melissa Giroux via Facebook

“Toonie Bar.”
- Asia Lee Hoffart via Facebook

“Don’t. Would you have your friends & family pay for drinks at your own home? Your wedding is an extension of that. No way, so tacky!”
- Old, New, Borrowed and Blue Weddings via Facebook

“Absolutely do not!”
- madelinemg via Twitter

To join in this discussion and others follow us at facebook.com/weddingbellsmag or twitter.com/weddingbellsmag.


advice

9 Reasons You Should Make Your Own “Collectables” Centrepieces (And How To Do It)

Sneak peek of a wedding I was thrilled to produce collectable centrepieces for. Photography by Jen Aaron.

Celebrity wedding planner David Connolly from Rich Bride, Poor Bride has joined Weddingbells as a guest blogger answering all of your burning wedding-related questions. Need some help with the planning process? Have a question about etiquette, organization or budgeting? Post your question in the comment field below and we’ll forward it directly to David.

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! This blog entry transcends a question to give thanks to my grandmother and all she taught me about this career, and life. It is inspired by her knack for throwing a curtain on a card table while filling an empty lemonade pitcher with lilacs from the backyard, all in the time it took for unexpected or forgotten guests to walk from the curb to the porch and be greeted by the screen door swinging open accompanied by her singing, “Finally!”

So when I read about “personalized, found-object collectable centrepieces” being a wedding trend for 2012, I think, “Trend? Me arse. Tanks ma b’ye but we be doin dat dare ting since Judas Priest made Sundees. Now G’waywitcha and yer trends before I puck ya in da moute.”

Or more simply put, ‘Thanks Nanni for truly instilling the belief in me that, “There’s always room for one more at our table.” And the skill-set to ensure that our table would win if there was ever an impromptu, “Who has the nicest table within four blocks?” random, might never happen, competition.

9 Reasons You Should Consider Making “Collectables” Centrepieces

1. Although popularly related to ‘vintage shabby chic’ or beach themes, this method can help create any level of formality or style. Whimsical? Of an era? Minimal? Dramatic? Romantic? Cultural? All of the above? It’s the selection of objects that define the vision.
2. Ultimately visual cohesion will exist through a colour scheme and common textures but don’t be rushed to establish them. Let your initial decor scavenger hunts and ongoing familiarization with the reception room allow must-have pieces, fabrics and/or finishes to inspire you.
3. Places to look: Flea markets, garage sales, attics, basements, closets, your aunt’s lavender farm, your uncle’s tool shed, Craigslist/Kajiji.
4. Choose objects that might elicit guest conversation or possible interaction: photos in a wooden recipe box, a real trophy, newspaper clippings about guests in a journal, a sailor hat on a stand that your grandfather wore when he proposed to the pill box hat at the next table over.
5. Don’t let colour or original purpose prevent you from considering a find that you love… you can change the colour or finish of almost anything and you’ll be surprised at how elegant pheasant feathers coming out of an upside down chandelier can look.
6. Collecting, shopping, packing, recording, transporting, cleaning and setting up on the day takes longer than you think and requires you to enroll a dedicated helper in the plan — far enough in advance that you trust them to make changes.
7. Full marks for sustainability! One stop further on the eco train would be to double your guest favours as decor by incorporating them into your table design. Kitchen herbs planted in 10 terracotta pots or mason jars or soup tins, leather bound books, gorgeous vintage ornaments in a cut crystal punch bowl or hanging from a branch standing in an antique ice bucket, jars of candy, or cupcakes and candles.
8. You don’t have to give the centrepieces away. Especially if their contents include early shower or wedding gifts that suit: the teapot, the photo-frame cube, martini glasses with floating dahlias, the birdcage, crystal candlesticks…
9. Permanent botanical keepsakes like assorted hob-knob milk glass vases holding paper flowers made out of whatever suits the couple best…paperback novels, copies of the wedding vows, sheet music, maps, or fabric flowers in apothecary jars.

Yours in Gobble, Gobble Gratitude (and especially you Nanni…I love you more than Jello),
David
(aka Captain Collectables)

Find me on Facebook at Facebook.com/theaislefile

advice » fashion

Advice From Other Brides On Choosing Bridesmaids Dresses

Choosing a dress that fits every bridesmaid’s personality and body type can be daunting. Some bridesmaids are too opinionated while others are too indecisive. So should you decide on what your girls wear or should you leave the deciding up to them? We asked our Facebook and Twitter followers if their bridesmaids had a say in what they’re wearing. Here’s what they had to say:

“I picked them but they told me whether or not they liked them. They also went dress shopping with me so I got an idea of what they wanted as well. I did pick very usual dresses though.”
- Paula Henley via Facebook

“My girls picked their own dresses. I made sashes and bought wraps to make them match each other.”
- Amanda Hurrie via Facebook

“Yes. I only have one maid of honour and she got to pick her dress and a choice of red or silver.”
- Tara MacDonald via Facebook

“I went to a company that offers all of its dresses in 52 colours. I picked the colour, then told my bridesmaids to pick out any knee-length dress. My maid of honour had to pick out a full-length gown. They oddly all picked the same dress!”
- Jenna Wiegand via Facebook

“No! I was the one to pick the dresses. But I got lucky, they loved them.”
- Kathy Larkin via Facebook

“I picked the colour and they get to pick the style of their choice and budget.”
- Karen O via Facebook

“They got to decide on the style but it had to be a specific colour.”
- @lilsars via Twitter

“I told them to pick any black dress that was above the knee. It turned out that everyone’s dress was different but made of the same material.”
- Jessica Miller via Facebook

“I told them what colour and designer. I wanted marine blue and Alfred Angleo and they could wear any style dress they wanted. If they’re paying for them they should get the dress they’re comfortable  in.”
- Johanna McLellan via Facebook

“Absolutely! I want them to pick a style that they feel most comfortable and pretty in.”
- @alitenwest via Twitter

“Yes- they have to be happy too!”
- Jo Miller via Facebook

To join in this discussion and others follow us at facebook.com/weddingbellsmag or twitter.com/weddingbellsmag.

advice

The Top 5 Reasons To Have An Unplugged Ceremony (And How To Explain The Concept To Your Guests)

Celebrity wedding planner David Connolly from Rich Bride, Poor Bride has joined Weddingbells as a guest blogger answering all of your burning wedding-related questions. Need some help with the planning process? Have a question about etiquette, organization or budgeting? Post your question in the comment field below and we’ll forward it directly to David.

Here is this week’s reader question:

Q: “I am getting married in 18 months and I would like to “ban” cameras from the wedding and reception. I do NOT want photos of my wedding posted on Facebook without my consent and to be honest, I am paying a very large sum of money to a professional photographer so it should be ME that gets to share photos of my wedding, not other people. We are happy to provide professional photos to anyone who wishes to have them for their own personal use. How should I deal with this situation?”
- Jen Gibson

Read the rest of this entry »

advice

Expert Advice On Thank You Card Etiquette

Celebrity wedding planner David Connolly from Rich Bride, Poor Bride has joined Weddingbells as a guest blogger answering all of your burning wedding-related questions. Need some help with the planning process? Have a question about etiquette, organization or budgeting? Post your question in the comment field below and we’ll forward it directly to David.

Here is this week’s reader question:

Q: “I was married three weeks ago and have just returned from my honeymoon. We have not sent out thank you cards yet. When should they be sent out by? Thanks!”
- Amelia Sirianni

Read the rest of this entry »

advice

Expert Advice On Narrowing Down The Guest List

Maureen and Bill, David's parents, 1960. St. Ashby's Church, Sydney, Nova Scotia.

Celebrity wedding planner David Connolly from Rich Bride, Poor Bride has joined Weddingbells as a guest blogger answering all of your burning wedding-related questions. Need some help with the planning process? Have a question about etiquette, organization or budgeting? Post your question in the comment field below and we’ll forward it directly to David.

Here is this week’s reader question:

Q: Is it acceptable to invite people to only the ceremony (not reception)? We can’t afford to feed all the extended family. How do we indicate this to them on the invitation?
- Lauren Peters

Read the rest of this entry »

advice » dear belle

Travel Money

Q: I was wondering: do we have to pay the travel cost/hotel/airfare/food for my bridesmaids if the wedding is out of province? I am paying for their outfits, shoes and accessories. Read the rest of this entry »

advice » dear belle

Wine-Only Wedding

Q: Does it seem tacky or cheap to only serve wine and beer? Read the rest of this entry »

advertisement

Start your wedding registry now!
Connect with bridal registries across Canada.

recent comments

5 Things Every Wedding MC Should Already Know
You two are soooo close, lets keep going guys…..loveya.
18 Unique Ways To Work Balloons Into Your Wedding
PLEASE do not release helium balloons into our fragile ecosystems!...
18 Unique Ways To Work Balloons Into Your Wedding
Love it! Balloons are so much fun and really remind me of being a...
A Sunlight-Inspired Summer Wedding in Parksville, British Columbia
We absolutely love photographing ‘First...
Bridesmaid Dress Trends for 2012 Weddings
Beautiful!!!!Love the dresses.
advertisement Cuisinart unites blending and cooking in one innovative product. Destination Weddings Guide Teleflora
advertisement

Fashion Magazine Subscribe Now Win an Aveno Prize Pack. ENTER NOW! the Art of Weddings. Toronto's finest documentary wedding photography. Teleflora Luxe Destination Weddings