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Dad Difficulties
Q: My father was never a big part of my life growing up; I rarely saw him. We’ve been a bit closer in recent years; however, I still do not plan on having him walk me down the aisle. Do I tell him this upfront, or wait and see if he asks? I don’t want to hurt his feelings. I plan on walking down the aisle by myself, so it’s not like I’m choosing someone else over him. Do you have any advice?
A: While traditionally your biological father would walk you down the aisle, it’s perfectly acceptable these days for brides to have their stepfathers, brothers or even mothers accompany them. Many brides also choose to walk the aisle alone, like you. What’s most important is that you’re comfortable with your decision, but you should also do your best not to hurt anyone’s feelings. Tell your father your decision far in advance of the wedding, and in private. Discuss the reasons behind your decision, and he should understand. The only area where it could become difficult is if your father is paying for the wedding. If he is paying he may feel it’s owed to him to give you away. If this is the case, you may want to consider letting him accompany you down the aisle, or give him another significant role in the wedding.
Do you have a wedding dilemma? Email your questions to Belle at feedback@weddingbells.ca.
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