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Money and Manners
Q: After our main wedding in Toronto, my fiancé and I will be going back to his home of South Africa to have a small reception for family and to celebrate our marriage. However, we wanted to include in these invitations that we will accept only cash gifts, as actual presents would not be easy (or cost-efficient) to send home to Toronto. How can we ask for cash-gifts-only in a kind and polite way?
A: While they are wonderful and thoughtful gestures, you must keep in mind that gifts aren’t required at any wedding. A different way to approach this would be to have your new in-laws spread your request through word of mouth that since you will be travelling so far, it will be difficult to take gifts home with you; therefore, if they would like to, they could always give cash instead of a gift.
Tags: destination wedding, invitations, money, south africa, toronto, wording
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Obviously the concept of a “Presentation Only” wedding is something neither of you have heard of. It is completely acceptable and if either of you know anyone from Manitoba you can ask if they can tell you if they have been to a Presentation Wedding.
Presentation weddings are popular for at least two scenarios. A new couple that is starting out and wish to purchase a home or a bride and groom that have been living together for some time and have accumulated a household full of “stuff”.
My fiance’s grandmother was quite blunt when asking what we prefered and she was happy to give cash.
There is no nice way to ask for money especially when you word it like: we will only accept cash. I think I would buy a gift just because!!!