My Top 10 Reflections

The wedding was fabulous and I loved every moment of it.  Here is my advice to you.

1. Don’t plan on leaving any tasks for the day before or the day of the wedding.

New last minute things that you don’t even think of will pop up and you might not have time to do everything.  We forgot to buy markers for our “guest book”!  We had these really cool pages for the guests to fill out, but only about ¼ of the guests filled them out.

2. It is totally worth it.

All the planning, hard work and money that goes into the wedding is truly worth it. In the final stressful weeks of planning, I was questioning whether we should have just planned a casual or destination wedding…  However, I had no idea how special and meaningful it would be. I’m so glad “we” put in all the work (and by “we” really I mainly mean my Mom, there’s no way the wedding would have happened without all of her hard work.)

3. Make enough time to see all of your guests.

I’ve always thought receiving lines were kind of a waste of time, but now I totally understand why people have them. We didn’t start walking around to see our guests until after dinner and it was really hard to get around to see each guest once people were up and moving around. If you aren’t having a receiving line, then I would suggest walking around tables during the dinner while guests are still seated. Especially if you have a big wedding…we only had about 65 guests!

4. Take it all in.

This advice was given to me from a former bride and it really makes sense. Everything goes by so fast, and if you don’t make a point of remembering the night, decor, faces, moments, the whole night could just pass you by in a flash.

5. Splurge on a few things.

Some of you might remember how I was considering making my own cupcakes. I ended up scoping out the cupcake scene in Toronto. I found a fabulous company by the name of Cupcaketionery. Their prices were a littler higher than some of the other quotes I got, but the cupcakes were worth every penny.  Every time I looked at my cupcakes during the wedding, they made me smile. They were so gorgeous and very delicious. The other splurge was the dress. It was really worth the money. I felt like a princess all night and you can only wear a dress like that once in a lifetime.

6. Go with a professional photographer.

We had considered using a student photographer to cut on costs, but definitely go with a professional photographer. Kim Lovell not only took fantastic shots, but she was great at giving direction and letting us know what to do next.  She posted a glimpse of our wedding on her blog at

7. Dance, dance, dance.

I had so much fun dancing at my wedding. We stayed dancing right until the very end of the night. Ladies, get some Dr. Scholl’s Ball of Foot Inserts, they made a huge difference! I wore my heels all night. We ended up hiring a DJ and it was nice during the night to be able to give requests and have him do some announcing. We used a company Bounce Entertainment and the DJ was fantastic. I ran out of time to give them a song request list, but they played fantastic music anyways.

8. Don’t over-rehearse things.

Our officiant Gordon Kushner told us not to practice our vows because they’d come out sounding rehearsed. We took his advice with regards to the vows and also the whole night. We skipped a rehearsal dinner, and let the events unfold naturally.

9. Count your blessings.

Both of my Grandmothers were there for my wedding day. Maleke and I had family and friends travel to come to our wedding. Our wedding party worked their butts off before and after the wedding to make it all happen. Our families get along great. I found my “better half” and married him. The list goes on, but seriously take a moment to realize how lucky you are.

10. Live happily ever after :)

I have so much more that I want to share with all of you. I’m really looking forward to writing a future blog all about pulling off our circus theme wedding. I’m also going to be sharing with you one of the most unique gifts that you can give to your husband on your wedding day.

Until next time!


  • Jessyca – Luxury Bride

    What a great top ten! It really held good information for any bride and groom approaching their wedding day.

    Beautiful pictures! I wish there were more!
    It looks like you had a great day!

  • Tara

    I love #4! I get emotional just reading about your night… it was so magical!

  • Twister

    Those cupcake trays are amazing! when I saw them in your facebook pictures I thought for a second you had done them all yourself (which would be insanity) because I remember in a previous post you had been thinking about making them.

  • tiffany

    So nice to be able to keep up to date on your wedding, the pictures look great! Hope everything works out for you and thanks for all the advice to those who may find themselves in the same position one day!

  • ..judith..

    Firstly, congratulations Heather and Maleke! I love that first photo of the two of you – that’s certainly the most unique wedding photo I’ve ever seen. Thank you for your list as I’m sure it’ll come handing the closer we get to our wedding date. You looked AMAZING in your dress..stunning! Number four is also something many brides have said to me: “Take it all in”. I wish you and Maleke a marriage filled with joy, laughter and “happily every after”.

  • Emily – Traditional Bride

    I have to say it again, I LOVE love love your dress! I went through all your pics on Facebook (because clearly I am a stalker lol)and I love your colours, the decor, the attire… everything was just beautiful. Great tips – that’s a big one, doing things ahead of time. I may be a keener but I think it’s important to do as much to prepare as you can, so as to avoid stress on the last couple of days! I can’t wait to hear about your gift to Maleke :) Congrats again!!


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